October 29, 2018
The Myth of “We’ve known each other so long, we have nothing left to talk about…”
Hear the clip here: We Never Talk Anymore. If, somehow, one or the other has managed to resist growing and changing – that’s a serious flaw and ought to be addressed.
Go to a Marriage Encounter weekend
Sign up for a marriage enrichment event through the Diocese of St. Petersburg
Go to a marriage enrichment event at your church
1. Each create a “family tree of life lessons.” Include anyone who taught you an important life lesson – good or bad – and the lesson. Ex: your so-called best friend who betrayed you in 7th grade and taught you what loyalty wasn’t; your grandparent who provided unconditional love; etc. Use these as discussion points: over a meal, each share in depth one of those life lessons, the story, how it’s impacted you (both good and bad), and really take advantage of the opportunity to understand one another on a deeper level, even if you think you have “heard it before.”
2. Share three gratitudes each night – hold hands, face another, and verbalize events or moments of the day for which you are grateful. Get to experience one another as a joyful person.
3. Pick a simple topic and really dig in: for example,
a. Your three favorite movies and why – what about those movies speaks to you? How are your current “favorites” different from the past favorites? Are some still a favorite but now for a different reason?
b. Your top two or three vacations you’d like to take together and why – what are the hopes and dreams about what those destinations would be like to experience, and how do you imagine having those experiences together? No judging or coming up with practical objections – this is daydreaming time and a chance to share one another’s dreams.
This is not intended to be therapy; if your relationship is badly damaged, please contact a licensed psychotherapist in your area.